Author: Matthew Ferry

Originally posted May 14, 2010 I’m sitting in row 20 seat E.  That’s the middle seat at the back of the plane.  This morning, not knowing what seat my assistant had booked me for this trip I wrote in my intentions, rather spontaneously, “I am so thankful to the universe for providing me with first class seats on the way up and back to Seattle this week… or something better!” This isn’t normally something I spend too much time manifesting as I practice being in a state of Ridiculous Bliss where ever I am, regardless of the circumstances.  But…

As a life coach, my job is to support my clients in getting inspired and empowered to take action on their most cherished dreams. A problem that we all face is that fear gets in the way. You know what you want. In fact, most of the time, you even know what to do to get what you want, but you get stopped by fear, doubt, uncertainty. These are emotions that tell you that you’re listening to, or you’re allowing your mind to control your life. Your mind, which I call The Drunk Monkey, is nothing more than a survival…

As a coach, my job is to help my clients successfully transition from the life that they currently have to the life they want. This means confronting and conquering the fear of change. Think about it like this. Even though your goals and dreams are exciting to think and talk about, your dreams are usually much less exciting to implement. Dreams are new. New is hard. New is different. New means potential failure. The Drunk Monkey, which is my little nickname for the mind, is designed to keep you away from new. Part of your programming as an animal is…

If you are already successful, then you know that success does not create happiness. In fact, success often creates the exact opposite.  Success is often defined as a series of well-managed breakdowns.  The more you succeed, the more there is to manage, the more goes wrong and the less time you have for yourself.  Look at the landscape of superstars and notice how many self-destruct under the pressure of their success.  Often, the more successful you get, the worse your life gets.  But it doesn’t have to be that way. As a life coach to the biggest players in the…

To discover your purpose you need to use a series of questions that help you to get to the core experience you are committed to having. So let’s start with a baseline question. 1. What is something you love doing now in your life? For example: you may love playing with your kids, creating music, gardening, surfing, snowboarding or going shopping. Maybe you love supporting your local charity or driving your car really fast. It really makes no difference where you start in this questioning process because you will always end up at the experience you love having in your life. 2. Now, keep in…

“You are already a master of fear and self-rejection, now try happiness.” – Matthew Ferry

Look who’s to blame. The Drunk Monkey stops you from getting what you want. It hates change. It likes it how it is now, even if you are suffering. Why? Because the future it scary. The unknown is scary. So it thwarts your plans, your dreams, your big ideas and tells you you can’t, it won’t work out, don’t try, and if you do, you’ll look stupid. The Drunk Monkey has deemed itself the authority of your life and it stops you from experiencing happiness, joy, and bliss. You can transcend The Drunk Monkey. The first step is to see…

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You were born!  Amazing!  You are reading these words on a computer, tablet or phone!  Totally awesome. Do you realize how lucky you are?  Do you get how fortunate you are? You are concerned with personal development. Hello! That means you are interested in evolving yourself. That is a very sophisticated pursuit.  That is one of the highest pursuits a person can undertake. To be in the pursuit of higher awareness means you are not trying to survive.  80% of the world is just concerned with staying alive. That’s not you. Do you get how lucky you are? Today just…

A great gratitude exercise is what I call Gratitude, Intention and Delegation (GIDs). Every day I have a group of people that I do this with. Every day I will write out what I’m grateful for: I am grateful for my family, I’m grateful for my kids, I’m grateful for my customers. I just start to write out everything that I’m grateful for. Then I set my intentions. Intentions are about how I want to feel and what I want to experience that day. That’s how I define intentions in this exercise, so I will intend to feel creative. I…