Sometimes you have to take a stand for what you believe in. Sometimes the entire structure of your life is fighting against your deepest desire. These moments of extreme resistance, breakdown and depression are actually transition points from one type of living to the next. New life come with a hefty price. It is destructive. Your old life will fight back, push you down and tell you that you can’t have what you want. In those moments you must learn to tame The Drunk Monkey and take a stand for what you believe is possible. It’s not easy, it’s not…
Author: Matthew Ferry
Matthew Ferry
Matthew Ferry is a spiritual teacher, master coach, and best-selling author. Since 1993, he has helped thousands of high-performing professionals, entrepreneurs, and executives transcend fear, quiet their minds, and create what he calls Enlightened Prosperity™—success without stress. His signature methodology, The Rapid Enlightenment Process™, has been peer-reviewed and published in the Journal for Advanced Social Sciences. He is the author of Quiet Mind Epic Life, creator of the Mental Journey To Millions, a 2x TEDx speaker and best-selling author.
Most think that if I am truly being free, then I can do what ever I want. Nope! That is being a slave to your wants. Your wants are almost always a reaction to something from the past. Your wants are usually about NOT being something, NOT doing something or NOT being dominated by something. True freedom comes out of discipline. The discipline of observing The Drunk Monkey (your mind) and not allowing its fear to run your life. The discipline of seeing The Drunk Monkey for what it really is. These two disciplines give you the freedom to choose…
A client of mine is between a rock and a hard place. For the last year and a half, she has not been admitting it. Like millions of people in America today, this person thought that buying a kind of real estate, over-leveraging, and betting on speculation was the smart thing to do. It has since blown up in her face and now she finds herself making a lot of money, but she owe more than she makes every month. The key is to let it all go, and this has been a tough process. Admitting that she has…
Would you like to feel happy? Do you want to have more peace of mind? Then give up your opinion. How you see the world makes no difference to anyone else. Everyone sees the world differently. Yet, opinions are the source of suffering and negativity. All negativity in your life can be sourced back to an opinion that you hold. Here is a quote from one of my all time favorite books Eye of The I: “With humility comes the willingness to stop trying to control or change other people or life situations or events ostensibly ‘for their own good’. …
A friend on the internet writes, “I’ve watched your videos on manifesting and The Drunk Monkey and I’m wondering if there is a way to get my job back using your techniques. A group of people took revenge on me and got me fired. Can you help?” To start, remember that you get what you focus on. If you retaliate, you will bring more negativity upon yourself. Kids know it intuitively when they say, “I’m rubber, you are glue, whatever you say bounces off me, and sticks to you!” The energy of retaliation is anger, hostility, revenge, and ultimately powerlessness. …
It’s easy to let what’s happening in the external world drive our thoughts and behaviors. It’s not always easy to see why we get hooked on assessing, judging, and sorting through the non-stop stream of information coming at us day after day. As human beings, we are hardwired to survive. It’s built into our DNA. The Drunk Monkey (my nickname for the mind) is designed to protect you from possible suffering, from pain and from discomfort. It’s designed to assess the external environment for threats – real and imagined – and then act accordingly. As a result, it has a…
One of my clients sent me an email. “Everything I manifested fell apart! Now what?” This is my answer: You aren’t perfect, life isn’t consistent, and you are learning. When what you want manifests and then everything goes to sh** don’t lose the lesson. Don’t lose the clarity comes from things not working. There is a skill, discipline, belief, structure or accountability missing. Think about it. What’s missing in your life so that you can pull things to you, and then they fall apart? For example, in sales, one might be able to get the appointment but cannot get the…
One of my Wall Street clients is totally on fire. Which is a bit of a shocker given the current financial crisis the world is in. Last year he got fired by one of the biggest firms on the street and it’s been the best thing that’s ever happened to him. This year he has spent the entire year working on himself. Clearing up past resentments. Getting clear on his priorities. Connecting to his true purpose in life. Loving his children more. Spending time getting in shape. The Result? He has doubled his income over last year (which was already…
I’m working with 73 Realtors in a six-month coaching program right now. Their businesses are growing in a wild and exponential fashion. Why? When the economy shrinks, demand increases. Most people can’t believe that is true. And that perspective is the trigger that makes it true. The number of people who are emotionally shutdown far outweighs the decrease in business. If there were 10 deals a day before, and there has been a 40% reduction in the market place, then there are only 6 deals a day being done. Here’s the good news! If there were 10 agents to get…
Joy is your natural state. Joy is how you feel when you have no resistance to anything or anyone. Fear is a biological response that is generally a hallucination you are having about the past or the future. Notice how infrequently you experience joy and how often you are “concerned” with time, getting things done, who’s doing what and when, etc. These are all fears that the future is not going to be what you want it to be. Notice The Drunk Monkey in Action today.