Author: Matthew Ferry

If you are already successful, then you know that success does not create happiness. In fact, success often creates the exact opposite.  Success is often defined as a series of well-managed breakdowns.  The more you succeed, the more there is to manage, the more goes wrong and the less time you have for yourself.  Look at the landscape of superstars and notice how many self-destruct under the pressure of their success.  Often, the more successful you get, the worse your life gets.  But it doesn’t have to be that way. As a life coach to the biggest players in the…

To discover your purpose you need to use a series of questions that help you to get to the core experience you are committed to having. So let’s start with a baseline question. 1. What is something you love doing now in your life? For example: you may love playing with your kids, creating music, gardening, surfing, snowboarding or going shopping. Maybe you love supporting your local charity or driving your car really fast. It really makes no difference where you start in this questioning process because you will always end up at the experience you love having in your life. 2. Now, keep in…

“You are already a master of fear and self-rejection, now try happiness.” – Matthew Ferry

Look who’s to blame. The Drunk Monkey stops you from getting what you want. It hates change. It likes it how it is now, even if you are suffering. Why? Because the future it scary. The unknown is scary. So it thwarts your plans, your dreams, your big ideas and tells you you can’t, it won’t work out, don’t try, and if you do, you’ll look stupid. The Drunk Monkey has deemed itself the authority of your life and it stops you from experiencing happiness, joy, and bliss. You can transcend The Drunk Monkey. The first step is to see…

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You were born!  Amazing!  You are reading these words on a computer, tablet or phone!  Totally awesome. Do you realize how lucky you are?  Do you get how fortunate you are? You are concerned with personal development. Hello! That means you are interested in evolving yourself. That is a very sophisticated pursuit.  That is one of the highest pursuits a person can undertake. To be in the pursuit of higher awareness means you are not trying to survive.  80% of the world is just concerned with staying alive. That’s not you. Do you get how lucky you are? Today just…

A great gratitude exercise is what I call Gratitude, Intention and Delegation (GIDs). Every day I have a group of people that I do this with. Every day I will write out what I’m grateful for: I am grateful for my family, I’m grateful for my kids, I’m grateful for my customers. I just start to write out everything that I’m grateful for. Then I set my intentions. Intentions are about how I want to feel and what I want to experience that day. That’s how I define intentions in this exercise, so I will intend to feel creative. I…

The Drunk Monkey, my nickname for your mind, is committed to keeping you alive. Therefore, it spends time proving its’ conclusions. All of your conclusions about life, your opinions about how life is, are just observations filtered through all of your other observations. Which means, our opinions are very skewed and off-base. Let’s say your partner, lover, or significant other does something that contradicts your opinion. In your family, you never yell at people. In your partner’s family, they yell and scream when they feel anger. This yelling and screaming contradicts your opinion about how things “should” be. The…

So it turns out that giving thanks is actually good for your health. According to Robert Emmons, a professor of psychology at the University of California-Davis, adults who frequently feel grateful have more energy, more optimism, more social connections, and more happiness than those who do not, according to studies conducted over the past decade. What are you waiting for? Now is the time to get grateful. Need help? I recommend that you do two things. 1. Do my 10 10 Visualization. I like to, every day, spend a moment visualizing 10 things that I’m grateful for. And then, 10 of…

Fear is good.  It’s been our saving grace as a species.  Thank God for Fear!!  Without it, you would walk into traffic and get run over by a car and do all sorts of dangerous things. Dangerous.  Hmm?  Is your job dangerous?  Is your spouse dangerous?  Are you children dangerous?  No No No!  Yet, there are times when each of us experiences anger, doubt, frustration and upset in the above three examples.  Fear responses in non-dangerous situations. Fear is good in relationship to survival.  The problem is, you are not in survival situations very often.  Relationships, jobs, hobbies, political debates,…