Author: Matthew Ferry

Is fear good?. If we think about it, it’s been our saving grace as a species.  Thank God for Fear!!  Without it, you would walk into traffic and get run over by a car and do all sorts of dangerous things. Dangerous.  Hmm?  Is your job dangerous?  Is your spouse dangerous?  Are your children dangerous?  No No No!  Yet, there are times when each of us experiences anger, doubt, frustration, and upset in the above three examples.  Fear responses in non-dangerous situations. Fear is good in relation to survival.  The problem is, you are not in survival situations very often. …

One of my clients is a very creative journalist and author.  She has found herself at a fork in the road.  She asked, “How do I sort out the dichotomy between taking projects to completion and being open to what’s next?” This was my response: Completing projects is only important if it feels good.  Now I’m not advocating being a quitter so stick with me.  Many times we make promises to things that in the end are not good for us.  But it’s hard to know that up front.  So you must do a dance with life and keep checking…

Any time your world isn’t working, look at the relationships in your life.  Any time your life seems stuck, look at your relationships with people.  If you can’t seem to get motivated to take action, examine which relationships are working and which are not.  As an Inspired Action Coach, I have seen thousands of people down in the dumps and not taking action on their dreams.  The number one reason is discontent in relationships with others. Sounds weird but it really isn’t.  If you got really honest about your life, you would come to realize that relationships are the cornerstone…

I have many friends who are prominent globally.  I just finished dinner with someone whose name you would know.  This friend graces many stages with his presence, millions of people adore him, and yet, he feels alone. I am fascinated with the degree to which people’s power, possessions, accomplishments, and achievements are a reaction to their internal pain.  After coaching thousands of people to live in a state of joy now I’ve seen that the biggest obstacle to feeling totally satisfied with now is a person’s fundamental misperception. A quote from one of my favorite books You2 by Price Pritchet…

I just got off the phone with a prominent journalist who exclaimed, “Matthew, I’m stuck!  I’ve got all these incredible ideas and projects that are 1/2 started but I can’t get anything to move past the idea stage.  What do I do?” This is a buddy of mine so I took off my buddy hat and put on my coach hat.  I asked him, “How long have you been stuck?”  He replied, “Ever since having a fall-out with my last editor.”  Of course, you know my next question, “Tell me more about that?”.  You see, coaching is the process of…