Author: Matthew Ferry

I received this note unsolicited from Sherry Haylett today and I was moved to tears of joy.  Sherry has coached with me personally and she just completed the Breakthrough to Bliss weekend retreat.  I hope you are as touched as I was 🙂 Breakthroughs, Bliss & Happiness “Have you ever looked at yourself in the mirror and wondered “Who am I?  What is wrong with me?  Why am I here?  Why I cant I?  When will I ever just get it?”  You know, get the relationship, get the job, get the friends etc.  Well, that was me before I…

To create happiness in your life takes a different set of success tools. The target is different. It’s not longer material success or accomplishment. The new target is emotional success. This is the next domain of success. Once you realize that success does not make you happy, you suddenly find yourself on journey.

Did you know when you set goals, intentions or dreams, it immediately creates contrast? Think about it like this; you set the goal to be kind. In that moment, all the things in your life that piss you off come up. All the places in which you have to examine how you are not kind and how you relate to the world in an unkind, judging, mean, nasty way begin to flood your thoughts. Same thing with setting an intention to make more money. The minute you do that, your mind instantly becomes aware of all the money you DON’T…

Are you creating standards that make you feel bad about yourself, about your personality, about your situation? Are you holding yourself accountable to standards that don’t even exist? I’d be willing to bet that you are. Take my client, for example, she sets a goal every single month to bring in $30,000.00 in revenue. Every single month she brings in about $12,000 to $15,000 in revenue. I keep saying to her, “Why don’t we set a goal to bring in $15,000 because that is a stretch month for you?” And she keeps saying, “No, no, I can do $30,000. Whatever…

So, are you a habitual robotic psycho who can’t control his response to things? Are you stuck in your belief that the way that you’ve been conditioned to behave is the right way? And the way that other people have been conditioned to behave is the wrong way? Are you holding people accountable to agreements they never made? Are you mad when people don’t do the things that you want them to do? Are you mad when people don’t do the things that you want them to do? Come on. Let that stuff go. You are not the ruler of…

You can never set “big” enough goals to keep you motivated and working everyday.  A more reliable process is to set goals that “mean” enough to you that you are inspired to keep working every day.  Inspiration is defined as imbued with the spirit to do something.  That can only be accomplished through meaning.  Consider that the bigger problem is that you are looking at your current work as “hard”.  A far more powerful idea is to change the relationship you have with work.  In my book Creating Sales Velocity I talk about writing a gratitude list every day.  Try…

A client writes, “My mom brings out the tribal warrior in me and we have some pretty intense exchanges. Today I was practicing being compassionate and thinking she is doing the best she can and then in her presence I felt furious. My nerves were on edge and our exchange was terrible. What can I do when I feel like just out of nowhere provoked intensely. I know I am not a victim of my mom but she makes me really mad. I think she acts inappropriately and out of bounds.” My response: Somewhere along the line, The Drunk Monkey…

One of my clients has begun a meditation practice.  He journals after each session.  His last journal entry was very insightful and I thought you would enjoy his perspective. “Twenty minutes again and the most spiritually enlightening of any of my contemplations to date. After allowing six minutes to still myself, I began contemplating David Hawkins’ Map of Consciousness. I realized that in every aspect of life, the path to happiness is the same. In the first place, you often feel anger towards those things you see as outside of yourself and adverse to your ambitions. As you progress, you…

As you go through your day, expect miracles.  But don’t just expect them.  Declare them!  When something happens that surprises you, declare it a miracle. Remember, you are making this life up as you go.  Do you want to play by the boring, tedious, demanding, depressing, conflicting rules that were passed down generation after generation by people who didn’t have the ability to produce magic like you do?  Or would you like to live the life you always knew was possible as a kid? You know inside you that the moment you do expect miracles, it will change the direction…

A lot of people ask me why the law of attraction doesn’t work for them. I’ve investigated this a lot, not only in my own personal life with all of my own experimentation, but I’ve also investigated it with thousands and thousands of other coaching clients, where I’m working with them one on one, and they’re saying, “Matthew, why is it that I want this, but I keep getting that?” What they want is usually success, and what they keep getting is failure. And what it comes down to is probably the most breakthrough ideas that I’ve come across. It’s…