About a week ago I sent you an email titled Yes, you are that powerful. (If you missed it, click here to read it on my blog.)
After reading it Ash Stevens had a major ah-ha moment. And, she agreed to let me share it.
Before you read her email below, I want you to think about an area of your life where you are stuck… or tolerating… or just not satisfied with how it’s going.
For Ash, it was with her husband. As you are about to witness, she took my words to heart, took responsibility for the way she was perceiving her husband, and KABAM! Everything changed.
You hear me talk about the power of mindset… that mindset is the one change that changes everything. But nothing is as powerful as hearing straight from someone who has experienced first hand.
I think her email will inspire you the way it inspired me. Here is it:
“Sweet baby Jesus! It’s sooooo true! I recently got hit with the idea that all of the issues I was experiencing (or rather, perceiving) with my husband came from me and ONLY from me. As in, all in my mind because my perspective only allowed me to see what I was looking for. My remedy for this was to commit to seeing my husband as my best friend.
No more icky vulnerable BS or defensiveness or feeling attached or taking things personally. None of that! Instead I had to perceive him as my very best friend. A best friend who would always be there. A best friend who cared and was there to listen. A best friend who I could talk about absolutely anything with and have ridiculous simple fun with at any given moment. Let me tell ya…. The effects of this shift in thinking are HUGE!
There’s no way in hell I’m going to type it all out on an iPhone at 11:30 at night, but I’ll tell you this… I had a best friend in him all along. I just didn’t see it. And now that I do I’m loving my time with this guy as much as when we first got together. I can only explain it with two very carefully selected words; f***ing phenomenal. 🙂
To words! To mindset!!!” – Ash Stevens
Where is your perception of a person or a situation dis-empowering you?
Where do you feel stuck, frustrated, or unheard? Is it in your relationships, with money, at work or your self image?
Once you determine what it is, I invite you to do what Ash did and shift the way you are perceiving or looking at it.
That’s the skill: Learning to shift your context, so you experience what you really want.
This can be tricky stuff.
It takes practice.
In the end, it’s the path to having more power, more profit and more peace of mind.
I want that for you.
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Matthew Ferry