How do you determine what is right or wrong?
Today, I want you to think about one thing that you are SURE you are right about, and then see if you can look at it from a different point of view. See if you can stand in the shoes of someone who thinks what you think is wrong.
Let me give you an example. Say you are in sales. And, you were taught not to interrupt people at dinnertime. When you asked your mom if you could see if the neighbor kids could play she would politely say, “No, sweetie, it’s not polite to interrupt people at dinnertime.”
Say you are in sales. And, you were taught not to interrupt people at dinnertime. When you asked your mom if you could see if the neighbor kids could play in the evening she would politely say, “No, sweetie, it’s not polite to interrupt people at dinnertime.”
Fast forward.
Now, you are an adult… with bills and responsibilities. And you’ve decided to make a living selling. Today, you have a hot lead that you’ve been meaning to call all day, but time has slipped by. It’s about dinnertime. What do you do?
Most likely, you wait to call tomorrow, right? After all, it’s not polite to interrupt at dinner time.
But here’s the thing: THIS IS AN INVENTED point of view about what’s ‘right’ when it comes to calling someone at this time of day.
Somewhere you hear a little voice say “It’s dinnertime, don’t bother them. That would be rude. Calling tomorrow will be fine.”
So, you wait and call in the morning… only to discover that someone else (whose mom didn’t train them in your families dinnertime rule) got the business. Why? Because they weren’t subconsciously stopped by an invented rule, and they were able to serve the prospect before you.
As you develop the skills to look at things from a different position, free of your opinion, you begin to see that right and wrong are made up. This begins to free you from limiting thoughts and ideas that have kept you stuck.
Remembering that there are no rules in life is one of the 23 Quiet Mind Daily Practices. Click the image below to get all 23 practices for FREE!
Author
Matthew Ferry