Author: Matthew Ferry

Your words have enormous power. They are one of the most effective tools you have to get things done (or not), build relationships (or not), and get business done (or not). What you say matters. Really. I bust my new coaching clients on what they are speaking about (also called describing) things all the time. The typical response is “Matthew, I am just telling you the truth!” And, that’s where the fun for me as a coach really begins. Most people have convinced themselves that how they see the world is correct. They arrogantly believe that their interpretation of things…

Everyone says that happiness is a choice. I’m not so sure. I’ve personally coached more than 8,000 people to achieve greater happiness and success in their lives and many were blocked. “Just choose happiness,” wasn’t a coaching tactic they could implement. No matter how much discipline my clients’ implemented, choosing happiness seemed impossible. Over the last 20+ years I realized that happiness is not a choice, happiness is a skill. You have to practice being happy. Dan Gilbert’s iPhone Study, showed us that the mind automatically wanders to thoughts that make us feel bad. In other words, the mind defaults…

Over the weekend, Kristen and I were talking about the slump she’s been in. In March and the beginning of April, life’s events dominated her time and took her attention away from a couple of big projects that she’s really excited about. As a result, it’s the end of April and she’s not feeling 100%, not inspired, not motivated. Which really bums her out – continuing her slump! So, we came up with a plan to start the week off right, and I want to share it with you. #1 Focus on Mindset To get your head in the game,…