Author: Matthew Ferry

There is no world out there. Not at least the world you experience.  Yes, there is something out there, but what you are experiencing isn’t it.  What you are experiencing is your opinion, your perception, and your conditioning.  How you relate to the world is what the world is for you.  Two people can be in the exact same situation and have completely different experiences. Are there atoms, electrons and such out there in the world? Apparently, science is getting a better grasp on that.  But it takes multimillion dollar machines to see what is really going on in the…

The promise of a spiritual perspective is that you will feel more connected, more loved, more joyous, and feel a sense of oneness.  Yet, many spiritual people DO NOT have an abundance of these experiences.  In fact, most of the spiritual people I meet have pretty sucky lives.  And guess what, I’ve been there too.  Here’s why. There is a myth perpetuated by the misunderstanding of ancient spiritual text that you must withdraw from life in order to be spiritual.  The whole, “Poverty is more spiritual” things is a total misperception. Adopting a more spiritual perspective simply means that you…

Sometimes you have to take a stand for what you believe in. Sometimes the entire structure of your life is fighting against your deepest desire. These moments of extreme resistance, breakdown and depression are actually transition points from one type of living to the next. New life come with a hefty price. It is destructive. Your old life will fight back, push you down and tell you that you can’t have what you want. In those moments you must learn to tame The Drunk Monkey and take a stand for what you believe is possible. It’s not easy, it’s not…

Most think that if I am truly being free, then I can do what ever I want.  Nope!  That is being a slave to your wants.  Your wants are almost always a reaction to something from the past.  Your wants are usually about NOT being something, NOT doing something or NOT being dominated by something. True freedom comes out of discipline.  The discipline of observing The Drunk Monkey (your mind) and not allowing its fear to run your life.  The discipline of seeing The Drunk Monkey for what it really is.  These two disciplines give you the freedom to choose…

A client of mine is between a rock and a hard place. For the last year and a half, she has not been admitting it. Like millions of people in America today, this person thought that buying a kind of real estate, over-leveraging, and betting on speculation was the smart thing to do. It has since blown up in her face and now she finds herself making a lot of money, but she owe more than she makes every month. The key is to let it all go, and this has been a tough process. Admitting that she has…

Would you like to feel happy?  Do you want to have more peace of mind?  Then give up your opinion. How you see the world makes no difference to anyone else.  Everyone sees the world differently.  Yet, opinions are the source of suffering and negativity.  All negativity in your life can be sourced back to an opinion that you hold. Here is a quote from one of my all time favorite books Eye of The I: “With humility comes the willingness to stop trying to control or change other people or life situations or events ostensibly ‘for their own good’. …

A friend on the internet writes, “I’ve watched your videos on manifesting and The Drunk Monkey and I’m wondering if there is a way to get my job back using your techniques. A group of people took revenge on me and got me fired. Can you help?” To start, remember that you get what you focus on. If you retaliate, you will bring more negativity upon yourself.  Kids know it intuitively when they say, “I’m rubber, you are glue, whatever you say bounces off me, and sticks to you!” The energy of retaliation is anger, hostility, revenge, and ultimately powerlessness. …

It’s easy to let what’s happening in the external world drive our thoughts and behaviors. It’s not always easy to see why we get hooked on assessing, judging, and sorting through the non-stop stream of information coming at us day after day. As human beings, we are hardwired to survive. It’s built into our DNA. The Drunk Monkey (my nickname for the mind) is designed to protect you from possible suffering, from pain and from discomfort. It’s designed to assess the external environment for threats – real and imagined – and then act accordingly. As a result, it has a…

One of my clients sent me an email.  “Everything I manifested fell apart! Now what?” This is my answer: You aren’t perfect, life isn’t consistent, and you are learning. When what you want manifests and then everything goes to sh** don’t lose the lesson. Don’t lose the clarity comes from things not working. There is a skill, discipline, belief, structure or accountability missing. Think about it. What’s missing in your life so that you can pull things to you, and then they fall apart? For example, in sales, one might be able to get the appointment but cannot get the…

One of my Wall Street clients is totally on fire.  Which is a bit of a shocker given the current financial crisis the world is in. Last year he got fired by one of the biggest firms on the street and it’s been the best thing that’s ever happened to him.  This year he has spent the entire year working on himself.  Clearing up past resentments.  Getting clear on his priorities.  Connecting to his true purpose in life.  Loving his children more.  Spending time getting in shape. The Result? He has doubled his income over last year (which was already…