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    Other People Do Not Cause Your Suffering

    Matthew FerryBy Matthew FerryJanuary 14, 2011Updated:January 18, 20181 Comment1 Min Read
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    There are no jerks in the world until you show up. Do you get that? People aren’t anything until you label them and give your opinion about what they are. What we don’t like in people is what we’re unwilling to accept about ourselves.

    So every time I work with someone, and they start to talk like, “Well, I don’t like this, and I don’t like that. He’s a jerk…” I ask them to start to examine themselves – who they are. Who is the person that is making the complaints? We find out that the person making the complaints actually has those same complaints, in some way, about themselves.

    It’s usually an issue about themselves, but they’re unwilling to admit it. There are no jerks in the world until you show up. You’re the one that declares them a jerk, and you can declare them anything you want. Your resistance is what causes you to suffer, and your suffering is caused, ultimately, by your opinion. So why not change your opinion so that you can feel good? You change your opinion, you change your life.

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    Matthew Ferry, is a Spiritual Teacher, Songwriter and Best-Selling Author. For the last 26 years, Matthew Ferry has coached thousands of top performers to achieve Enlightened Prosperity™. His books, videos, audios, songs, meditations and seminars all utilize his street tested methodology called The Rapid Enlightenment Process™. Among his many projects, Ferry manages a blog and spearheads The Ignite Mastermind. Matthew Ferry is also the author of Quiet Mind Epic Life, an Amazon Self Help and Spirituality best-seller in the US, Canada, Australia and Japan. Matthew and his family live in Southern California.

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    1. Mary on January 15, 2011 7:16 pm

      There is such an addiction to drama in this day and age. Complaining and gossiping is such a waste of energy and a relinquishment of our inner peace. It’s so much easier to look at the mirror get the message for those things that push our buttons, then move on to attract the people we want to emulate into our lives. No drama, no waste of energy, staying in the flow.

      Love your line: There are no jerks in the world until you show up.

      God Bless, Mary

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