“I have a problem with…”
“I can’t…”
“I’ve never been good at…”
Even when said casually over coffee, these kinds of statements are your prison. They are not true statements. They are habitual statements.
When you say, “I have a problem with people who communicate brashly,” that is not the truth. You don’t have a problem. You choose to resist. But your language externalizes the problem as if there is some aspect of yourself that you cannot control and is actually in control of you. The truth is, you have gotten in the habit of resisting people like this. Your language is your prison.
When you say “I can’t seem to get to the gym consistently!” You can already see that it is not a true statement. You make the decision to do something other than go to the gym. There is no phantom inside of you controlling your behavior. You have full control and until you admit it, your prison door is locked.
When you say, “I’ve never been good at keeping things clean!” You are not the victim of some powerful force inside of you that is controlling you and making your environment disorganized. You have habitually chosen to do something other than organize things.
Awareness and truth begin to set you free. Start telling the truth about the prison you have created today.
“I am in the habit of resisting people who communicate differently than I do.”
“The gym has been less important to me than sleeping in.”
“Keeping my environment clean is not important to me.”
Write in the comments and tell me some of the language you are going to change today.
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You are just a brilliant fellow and it is a pleasure to see your spicy beingness on the earth.
Thank you sir! I am committed to expressing the zany things my awareness points out to me.
My awareness of my pain is my resistance to my feelings simply wanting to get out. The pain is my gut cramping as the clenching holds onto the emotions in resistance rather than flow. They say “struggling is optional” but first I have to be aware that I am at cause for the pain because when I should have let go earlier…..
Jack,
Forgive yourself for the pain you have suffered so far. Until you have the awareness, it just seems normal and you feel powerless. With awareness comes flexibility. Flexibility reveals new options and options give you power. Keep becoming aware of those things you are resisting.
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I love how you re-worded the “problems” at the end. Very powerful. Really, that is the truth. Thanks for this post.
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