Author: Matthew Ferry

People are liars. Why do I say that? Simple. In general, people will NOT tell you what they really think. Let me give you an example. One of my sons tends to be negative by nature. His default style of communication implies things are bad or wrong. It’s so ingrained in him that he naturally starts many of his sentences with “The problem is…” or “No, it’s…” Even the most benign issues are subject to his criticism and judgment. Which is fine except Kristen and I find ourselves reacting his negativity all the time. For example. Kristen will say “Hey…

As a student and teacher of influential language patterns for over two decades, I love setting intentions. The other day a gentleman named Ed emailed me one of his intentions: To believe in my ability to consistently produce the results needed for success, regardless of the Market or my circumstances. Very powerful stuff. I really like how Ed is accountable for his success, no matter what. This is a trait of a high producer. And, yet something in his intention caught my attention… The word “consistently.” Check out the perspective I shared with Ed about the concept of “consistency.” Hey…

About a week ago I sent you an email titled Yes, you are that powerful. (If you missed it, click here to read it on my blog.) After reading it Ash Stevens had a major ah-ha moment. And, she agreed to let me share it. Before you read her email below, I want you to think about an area of your life where you are stuck… or tolerating… or just not satisfied with how it’s going. For Ash, it was with her husband. As you are about to witness, she took my words to heart, took responsibility for the way…