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    I’m stuck and I can’t get started

    Matthew FerryBy Matthew FerryOctober 14, 2008Updated:March 26, 20176 Comments2 Mins Read
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    I just got off the phone with a prominent journalist who exclaimed, “Matthew, I’m stuck!  I’ve got all these incredible ideas and projects that are 1/2 started but I can’t get anything to move past the idea stage.  What do I do?”

    This is a buddy of mine so I took off my buddy hat and put on my coach hat.  I asked him, “How long have you been stuck?”  He replied, “Ever since having a fall-out with my last editor.”  Of course, you know my next question, “Tell me more about that?”.  You see, coaching is the process of supporting powerful people in being empowered and coming up with powerful solutions for themselves.

    He goes on to tell me about how he got into a battle with his last editor over who owned his content.  The relationship ended badly.  Very badly.  Both sides felt taken advantage of and my friend was very upset about the outcome.

    “It’s simple really” I say to him.  “You must take some time to understand your editor’s perspective so you can let this go”.  “If you can stop protecting yourself from people in the future taking advantage of you, your creativity and power will return.  Why do you think he reacted so negatively?”  After a few guiding questions, he said something very revealing and at the heart of the matter.  “My content was of great value to the paper.  My editor wanted it exclusively and when I threatened to take it else were he became hostile.  Then I reacted like he didn’t understand my goals and it all deteriorated from there.”

    After a just a few more moments of coaching I had his assignment in mind.  I call it The Clean Up Steps.  It’s an easy way to reset the relationship back to normal.  Plus it clears any fear or negativity that get stuck in your mindset and stops you from taking action.

    Click here to read my post on The 5 Steps to Clean Up Any Relationship.

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    6 Comments

    1. Wendy Pierce on October 14, 2008 7:06 pm

      Hi Matthew,

      I currently coach with Roya ~ LOVE HER!!!!

      I’m not sure if these are the forgiveness steps or something different.

      Please let me know! Wendy

      Reply
    2. Jasmin on October 17, 2008 11:17 am

      Hi Matthew,
      Are these clean up steps the same as the steps in the Relationship course?
      Nevertheless,
      would you please send them.
      Thanks
      Jasmin

      Reply
    3. Terry on October 20, 2008 1:17 am

      i love you info Matthew. Your 8 steps to manifesting was awesome. You are also a great comedian. I would love the steps if you will send them thanks.

      Reply
    4. Jeannine Shingler on October 22, 2008 7:27 pm

      Hi Matthew —
      You mentioned on today’s call 10/22 the clean up steps for clearing relationships that one needs to apologize and clear, is on your blog.

      I am hoping this is it! 🙂

      Would you please email the steps. I could really benefit from this.

      Thank you SO much!!!
      Jeannine

      Reply
    5. Robert Parker on October 30, 2008 11:43 am

      Hi Matthew – Are these clean-up steps the ones you mentioned on yesterday’s (10/29) call? You were talking about 5 steps to apologize. I have a couple of situations that I want to apologize and clean up.

      I’m really looking forward to the Discover Your Purpose call.

      thanx

      Bob

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    6. Matthew on April 6, 2017 11:19 am

      Here are the 5 Steps To Clean Up Any Relationship
      http://blog.matthewferry.com/forgiveness-apology-5-steps-to-clean-up-any-relationship/

      Reply

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