Author: Matthew Ferry

When we are little, we instantly react to things. Something happens, and we cry, we laugh… our automatic reaction mechanism kicks in. Then we grow up. And we are never taught that we don’t HAVE to instantly react to things in our environment. Instead, we stay stuck in our immature ways of dealing with the world. As adults we say things like this: “I don’t like that” and “It shouldn’t be that way” or “I am offended.” These are reactions. Today, I would like to invite you to practice responding to your world. Take a moment, take a breath, and…

by Kristen Marie Ferry Matthew Ferry taught me “my mind is not my friend.” True that. I was taking a nap the other day, and realized as I was dreaming, that my mind was like the screen in a movie theater. On the screen were images – some unknown to me, some memories from long ago – that suddenly appeared without reason, cause or purpose. It’s as if whatever that talking is in my head (The Drunk Monkey as Matthew calls it) will put anything on the screen of my mind that it wants. Seemingly to entertain itself. Upon…

Fear is a thief. It steals your dreams, your desires and your peace of mind. Fear is the #1 obstacle standing in the gap between now and the life you actually want to be living. So why do we give it so much power? Simple. We haven’t learned our fears are a function of the mind’s biological drive to survive. Once you begin to see the mind trying to protect you from harm, you naturally see that its motives are good, but its implementation sucks. It’s like this: Being rejected doesn’t equal death. Neither does being out of your comfort…

In a recent post I advised my client to stop setting goals that made her feel bad.  Over and over she set goals she never hit. Consequently, she felt like a failure.  I told her to lower the bar to something she could hit. Well, she did and guess what?  It worked.  She had been saying over and over “I’m going to get $30k in new business this month!” and not doing it. In September lowered the bar and started hitting it.  In November, with a goal of $15k, she hit $30k. Are you shooting yourself in the foot by setting…

How can you shape your own destiny? Well, the answer is very simple. Practice gratitude. You become what you think about. So, if you’re focused on what is working in your life, then more of that is going to come into your life. It’s simple: Think about what makes you happy and what makes you feel grateful! If you think about these things, more of those things will come into your life. You intuitively know that when you think about these things, more of those things will come into your life. So your future becomes more and more what you…

If you want to produce big results in business and in life, then you need to stop pretending that you’re psychic. You must stop thinking you know how things will go… how things should be… and what other people should do. You must get out of the business of thinking things like “when this happens, then that will happen.” It’s just simply not true. But you convince yourself you can predict the future. And that’s a HUGE PROBLEM. Acting like you are psychic messes with your ability to get things done. Look, when you think you know how things will go,…

When your mind is an obstacle… You are fearful and worried about the future You waste energy trying to force a square peg into a round hole You spend too many sleepless nights Simple things annoy you and steal your focus You regularly judge other people, situations and yourself When your mind is an asset… You are carefree and resourceful no matter what is happening You have a Midas Touch You are an opportunity magnet People love to brainstorm and collaborate with you You find yourself happy for no reason In the end, your mind is either working for you…

Having your head in a good place is essential if you want to experience power, profit and peace of mind day in and day out. When you are worry-free, doubt-free and in a calm mental state you perform better. You have the capacity to think clearly. You are naturally more creative. You get things done, and you enjoy the process. When you are in a mental funk everything is harder. Simple things are a pain in the ass. You react, instead of responding at work, and at home. Your sense of satisfaction and accomplishment fly out the window. I know you have days…

I’ve known Roger since I was 14. He’s the one who asked me to be the lead singer for The Long March, a post-punk electronic band in the early ’80s. Together Roger and I wrote music, played in bands, even got signed to a record label. The song we wrote for Markus Schulz hit #29 on the Billboard Dance Club Play chart. Our history as musical collaborators is littered with some pretty wild stories. About a year ago, I told Roger I wanted to write another charting song – just for the fun of it. His response “A 47-year-old guy…

The other day a client asked me about my 10/10 Visualization Process. Today I wanted to get it in your hands for one simple reason: It’s the ideal way to leverage the power of emotion to get more of want you want, fast. We live in an attraction-based Universe. The happier you are with what you already have, the more you get what makes you happy. And, the inverse is true. If you are dissatisfied with your current situation, that energy muddles up your intentions. The more dissatisfied you are, the more you get what dissatisfies you. The good news…