Author: Matthew Ferry

“I have a problem with…” “I can’t…” “I’ve never been good at…” Even when said casually over coffee, these kinds of statements are your prison. They are not true statements. They are habitual statements. When you say, “I have a problem with people who communicate brashly,”  that is not the truth. You don’t have a problem. You choose to resist.  But your language externalizes the problem as if there is some aspect of yourself that you cannot control and is actually in control of you.  The truth is, you have gotten in the habit of resisting people like this.  Your…

If your energy is low, then your future is probably not that exciting.  If your energy is high, then your future is likely something you are excited about.  When I work with Life Coaching clients I’m always checking into their energy level to discover if new goals are necessary.  One of my clients works at a very big bank.  He has conquered the big challenges in his department.  The department is profitable but his energy is low.  I asked him, “What are you looking forward to?” His answer was telling, “Nothing.” We immediately went to work on new goals.  By…

Have you been trying to change, only to be pulled back to your old ways?  Consider this idea: The world won’t let you change.  Not because the world is evil and you are a victim.  Because you have set the world up to fit with your current set of behaviors and beliefs.  Everything you have said to others about how your life is, why your life is this way and who is to blame keeps you trapped.  The systems in your life are designed to keep your current life  intact. Every promise you make is a part of the system…

I answered this on Yahoo Answers and I thought you might enjoy my thoughts. “A friend recently introduced me to The Secret: Law of Attraction, a concept I found extremely interesting. Upon further research, I found that it is strongly linked with the new thought movement. Both of these concepts believe that everything in our lives is attracted to us via our thoughts, so illness comes from negative thoughts. How can this be applied to, for example, a 6-year-old boy with Duchenne Muscular Dystrophy, or a very ill baby, as they aren’t going to have negative thoughts enough to bring…

Divorce can be brutal on you emotionally.  When my first wife divorced me, I was devastated for a couple of years.  Needless to say, back then I did not understand how to feel bliss and all I had was anger, doubt, fear, disappointment and hurt feelings. That was years ago and it was the catalyst for a profound transformation in my life.  I’ve sought bliss and found it.  Since then, I’ve supported many of my clients through the process of divorce. So the question is, can you experience bliss while in the middle of your spouse divorcing you? The Cost…

A reader asked, “What do you think is the best way to infuse positive energy to other people around the world?” Here’s my answer:  The first thing to remember is that there are few people in this world who are actually interested in positive energy.  Most people are in a state of survival, which means positive feelings are very low on the priority list.  The world becomes a more positive place when you practice total and complete acceptance of all people, in all situations at all times.  This means even accepting those people who are negative and follows with the…

I just finished creating my goals and intentions for the Second Quarter of 2010. I started by assessing my Q1. In doing so I realized that I wasn’t living my over-arching intention for 2010. I have two signs in front of my computer screens: 1. Simplicity 2. My time is valuable In the first quarter, I set 74 intentions and goals. Hello!!! That is not simple at all. Didn’t realize this until I went through and checked off what I completed. I only completed 44%. The second thing I realized is that The Drunk Monkey snuck into my goal-setting process…

In an effort to inspire a community of 1300 people who are taking my current class, Instant Manifestation Now, I am documenting my personal intentions and delegations each day. Intentions are the feeling or experience I want to have in my life. I like to write them in this way: I intend to feel energized today. I intend to be present to my children. I intend to be at play. I intend to be loving. Delegations are the specific measurable results I want to achieve. I am clear that I can only set the conditions for my results to occur.…

For the next seven days I’m writing my intentions and delegations publicly on my blog as a commitment to my students. Why Write Your Intentions & Delegations? I write my intentions and delegations every day to keep my mind focused on the results that I’m committed to.  Some days I write my big giant results.  Other days I focus on incremental results that I’d like to see that day.  Some days I repeat what I wrote the day before.  Most days I write something new.  I don’t like writing the same thing over and over because it agitates my mind…

I’m teaching a class to 1300 people called Instant Manifestation Now.  The purpose of the class is to manifest your wildest dreams.  In the class I ask my participants to write intentions and delegations every day to help clarify goals and dreams. First I ask people to dream big.  What would be something so amazing and life-altering that when it manifests life is never the same again? From there we figure out how it would feel and what the experience would be once it was complete.  I call this your true intention.  In the end you want to feel and…