Author: Matthew Ferry

The Drunk Monkey, my nickname for your mind, is committed to keeping you alive. Therefore, it spends time proving its’ conclusions. All of your conclusions about life, your opinions about how life is, are just observations filtered through all of your other observations. Which means, our opinions are very skewed and off-base. Let’s say your partner, lover, or significant other does something that contradicts your opinion. In your family, you never yell at people. In your partner’s family, they yell and scream when they feel anger. This yelling and screaming contradicts your opinion about how things “should” be. The…

So it turns out that giving thanks is actually good for your health. According to Robert Emmons, a professor of psychology at the University of California-Davis, adults who frequently feel grateful have more energy, more optimism, more social connections, and more happiness than those who do not, according to studies conducted over the past decade. What are you waiting for? Now is the time to get grateful. Need help? I recommend that you do two things. 1. Do my 10 10 Visualization. I like to, every day, spend a moment visualizing 10 things that I’m grateful for. And then, 10 of…

Fear is good.  It’s been our saving grace as a species.  Thank God for Fear!!  Without it, you would walk into traffic and get run over by a car and do all sorts of dangerous things. Dangerous.  Hmm?  Is your job dangerous?  Is your spouse dangerous?  Are you children dangerous?  No No No!  Yet, there are times when each of us experiences anger, doubt, frustration and upset in the above three examples.  Fear responses in non-dangerous situations. Fear is good in relationship to survival.  The problem is, you are not in survival situations very often.  Relationships, jobs, hobbies, political debates,…

Here is a question I got from someone doing my free course. “Hi Matthew I’m enjoying your ecourse, however I have a question. After having numerous business’s in which I was happy and visualizing great things to happen with them, why then do things go wrong for no apparent reason? Ok, I know people will say – ah when things went wrong you got depressed etc, etc and this led to more things going wrong. Well, I was quite happy to begin with so why all of a sudden do things go wrong and then all of a sudden you have…

Back in 2009 I wrote 4 posts that talked about how your inner child messes your life up.  I thought it would be a good idea to revisit them all today. As a coach, I am confronted with this question on a daily basis, “How can I feel more happiness and peace in my life now?”  The answer is simple but most people don’t like the answer.  “Grow up!”  Now I’m not trying to be sarcastic or condescending, hear me out on this one.  Most people are still utilizing behaviors they learned in kindergarten and on the playground as their…

” Matt Ferry has lead me back to the fountain of youth, let me explain. When I watch my kids I realize that much like them I started out full of joy, present to the moment, my imagination had no limits and I hadn’t developed and fears or doubts, the world was limitless and full of promise. Matt helped me realize that somewhere along my journey I accepted false conclusions as reality and that I had strayed from my natural state of happiness and joy. He helped me realize that my state of fear doubt and uncertainty was self imposed…

A few months back I put an iPad 2 on my manifestation list.  I love getting things for free 🙂  Then I did the most powerful thing you can do when you want something new… Appreciate what you have!!  I really dove into my iPad one and made even better use of it.  I enjoyed it, loved on it and bragged about it. Additionally, I admired the iPad 2 from a far.  I went to the store and played with it and didn’t allow myself to go into jealousy, just Additionally, I admired the iPad 2 from afar.  I went to the store…

Three Umpires were asked how they call a strike in the game of baseball… Rookie umpire said, “I look inside the strike zone and I call ‘em the way they are” The experienced umpire said, “After a while I realized the best I could do is call them the way I see them.” The Master umpire said, “It ain’t nothin’ till I call it.” Your life isn’t anything until you call it. Life isn’t hard. People aren’t jerks. You aren’t stupid. Life isn’t anything until you call it.

The Buddha said, “By thought, the thing you want is brought to you. By action you receive it. To obtain your goal is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”

You are not The Drunk Monkey, your mind, that talking in your head.  You don’t say “I mind,” you say “My mind” like you possess a mind.  Yet, how often is The Drunk Monkey directing your choices in life?  How often do you make a decision to follow your dreams and The Drunk Monkey talks you out of it?  The answer for most of us is “almost always”. Is The Drunk Monkey your master or servant? How often are you listening to The Drunk Monkey say things to you? How often does The Drunk Monkey have an opinion on your…