Author: Matthew Ferry

One of my clients has begun a meditation practice.  He journals after each session.  His last journal entry was very insightful and I thought you would enjoy his perspective. “Twenty minutes again and the most spiritually enlightening of any of my contemplations to date. After allowing six minutes to still myself, I began contemplating David Hawkins’ Map of Consciousness. I realized that in every aspect of life, the path to happiness is the same. In the first place, you often feel anger towards those things you see as outside of yourself and adverse to your ambitions. As you progress, you…

As you go through your day, expect miracles.  But don’t just expect them.  Declare them!  When something happens that surprises you, declare it a miracle. Remember, you are making this life up as you go.  Do you want to play by the boring, tedious, demanding, depressing, conflicting rules that were passed down generation after generation by people who didn’t have the ability to produce magic like you do?  Or would you like to live the life you always knew was possible as a kid? You know inside you that the moment you do expect miracles, it will change the direction…

A lot of people ask me why the law of attraction doesn’t work for them. I’ve investigated this a lot, not only in my own personal life with all of my own experimentation, but I’ve also investigated it with thousands and thousands of other coaching clients, where I’m working with them one on one, and they’re saying, “Matthew, why is it that I want this, but I keep getting that?” What they want is usually success, and what they keep getting is failure. And what it comes down to is probably the most breakthrough ideas that I’ve come across. It’s…

I was working with a client recently, and she said to me, “I’m afraid to create my big vision right now. I just think – I’m in such flux. I’m in such transition in my life, that whatever I create right now, I know three to six months from now, it’ll be irrelevant.” And I said to her, “Whoa. Whoa, whoa. I want you to be ballsy right now. I want you to create a huge future that gets you excited, that brings your energy up, so you can experience the joy of it now knowing it’ll be irrelevant in…

In a paper named a “Global Perspective on Happiness and Fertility” the researchers asked: Taking all things together, would you say you are very happy, quite happy, somewhat happy, or not at all happy with people who have children? There was a wide variety of responses. They tried to tie it together to some socio-economic factor, but the truth is – whether you have kids or not will not determine if you are happy. How you perceive the situation is going to make you happy or not happy. If you are feeling dominated by your children, then you are not…

Can feeling grateful help you financially? Well, the answer is very simple. Being grateful helps you to focus on the things that are working in your business. You will focus on things that make money, which means that you’re going to bolster those things, so people who are grateful find themselves taking the right action. What do I mean by right action? Well, think about it like this: If I am freaked out, pissed off, annoyed, agitated and I’m focused on how nothing is working and it’s not going right, then I’m going to be in a state of fear…

How can practicing gratitude shape your destiny? The answer is very simple. You become what you think about, so you need to focus on what is working in your life. The more you focus on how your life is good and on what makes you happy, the more your life becomes what makes you happy! Your life becomes all the things you are grateful for.   So your future becomes more and more what you like about your life. Now let’s look at the other side of it.  The Drunk Monkey in your head, and it’s talking and thinking about…

How can gratitude help you spiritually? Well, the answer is very simple. Spirituality, ultimately, is just aligning yourself with the truth, and the truth is that life is good. I mean, if you’re reading this blog post right now, you’re someone who’s interested in making your life better. So, it’s not like you’re in a bad situation because people who are in a bad situation, they don’t find themselves attracted to personal development information; that’s just the way it is, so your life is good. So, it’s not like you’re in a bad situation because people who are in a…

The Drunk Monkey is definitely running your relationship if you are saying, “I love him, but – ” “I love her, but I wish she would – ” You see, what The Drunk Monkey says is “If my partner was more like me – if my partner did life the way that I thought they should do life, well, then they’d be much better.” You were conditioned to believe that your way of being in a relationship is the right way. You were conditioned, like a dog – pee over here. Poop over there. Do this. Say that. Walk like this.…

A lot of my clients say to me, “Matthew, I really just need to hold the vision, and everything’s gonna work itself out.” And there’s some truth to that. Holding the vision is absolutely essential. But, if you have too much vision, and not enough reality, it really equals no money. Projects don’t just go on their own. So, what you you need to admit is that when you have a really big vision, you often have an incredible learning curve to understand all the fundamental things that need to be in place in order to make that vision turn…